Let’s Talk About That “Super Mom” Myth! Ladies, I have a bone to pick with this whole “Super Mom” thing. You know, the mythical woman who effortlessly balances a spotless home, “organic” (using that term loosely) meal prep, PTA meetings, a full-time job, Pinterest-level birthday parties, and still manages to look put-together while sipping a green smoothie. Let me tell you something… she doesn’t exist.
She never has. And if you think you know her, she’s probably running on caffeine, sheer determination, and the desperate hope that no one asks her for a snack in the next five minutes.
She’s the woman frantically voice-texting into her phone while stirring dinner with one hand and fishing LEGO pieces out of the garbage disposal with the other. She’s double-booked, over-scheduled, and somehow still the only one in the house who knows where the extra toothpaste is. Sound familiar?
Somehow, society has convinced us that being a mom means doing everything, all the time, with a smile. Oh, and don’t forget to practice “self-care” (but make sure it doesn’t inconvenience anyone else)… I’m not buying it anymore!
You Are Not the Household Employee of the Month
After my second child, I was drowning in laundry, meal planning, appointments, errands, and let’s not even talk about the mental load (aka the reason your brain won’t let you sleep because you’re trying to remember if you RSVP’d to that birthday party).
And for what? A gold star? A participation trophy for “World’s Most Burnt-Out Mom”?
I hate to break it to all of us but… no one is handing out medals for doing it all yourself. And newsflash… most of these tasks? Someone else can do them.
That’s right, you do NOT have to be the sole person keeping your home (and let’s be honest, your entire family) from descending into chaos. You can, and SHOULD, hire help.
Enter, stage right… The House Manager: Your Secret Weapon for Sanity
I know, I know. You’re probably thinking, “But Kelly, I’m not a celebrity! I can’t afford a full-time staff like Beyoncé!”
Good news: You don’t have to!
Hiring a House Manager or Family Assistant is not some luxury for the ultra-rich. It’s a practical, life-changing solution for moms who are tired of feeling like they’re doing 87 jobs for free.
Think of a House Manager like your household COO. They handle things like:
- Meal prep and grocery shopping
- Laundry and home organization
- Scheduling appointments
- Errands and returns (no more piles of Amazon boxes haunting your living room)
- Kid wrangling (hello, carpool savior)
- Basically, all the things that make you want to scream into a pillow
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And before you clutch your pearls and gasp, “But what will I do if I don’t have to do everything?” I’ll tell you: You will actually have time to enjoy your life, get your valuable time back and be PRESENT with the people who mean the most to you… your kids, your partner and yourself!
But What About My Partner?
Ah, yes. The classic “but we should be able to handle it ourselves” argument. Listen, I love my husband, but let’s be real: the mental load is not evenly distributed in most households.
Hiring a House Manager isn’t about “not pulling your weight,” it’s about creating balance and reclaiming your time for things that actually matter (like, I don’t know, spending time with your kids instead of stress-folding laundry at midnight).
And if your partner needs some convincing? I got you. My Hiring A House Manager Starter Kit includes a Partner Collaboration Guide to help you break it down, complete with scripts that will have them nodding along in agreement.
The Real Cost of Doing It All Yourself
I get it, spending money on household help can feel like a luxury. But let’s do the math.
On average, moms spend 22.5 hours per week on household tasks. According to the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics’ American Time Use Survey, women who engage in household activities spend an average of 2.7 hours per day on these tasks, adding up to approximately 18.9 hours per week. Additionally, a Pew Research Center analysis found that women take on about six more hours of household work per week compared to men. These numbers make it clear… moms are carrying a massive load when it comes to managing the home.
That’s over 1,100 hours a year. Now, imagine what you could do with even half of that time back.
More sleep? More quality time with your kids? More sanity? Sounds like a pretty good return on investment.
In my Hiring A House Manager Starter Kit, I’ll walk you through:
- How to budget for a House Manager without breaking the bank
- Where to find reliable help (because the next-door teenager isn’t going to cut it)
- Exactly what tasks you can delegate (it’s more than just cleaning, trust me)
- Interview questions, hiring contracts, and an onboarding plan (because you don’t need another “job” figuring all this out yourself)
Let’s Stop Glorifying Burnout
Moms, it’s time to stop wearing exhaustion as a badge of honor. You were not put on this earth to be a one-woman cleaning service, chef, therapist, event planner, and chauffeur all rolled into one.
You deserve to have it all, without doing it all.
So, let’s retire the “Super Mom” nonsense and embrace something even better: Smart Mom. The kind of mom who knows that outsourcing isn’t failure… it’s freedom.
And if you’re ready to take the first step, grab my Hiring A House Manager Starter Kit today and start building your village.
You don’t have to do it alone. And honestly? You shouldn’t!
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